DOMESTIC VIOLENCE - BE FREED
It seems natural for any woman at any age to look for ideas to make them look and feel good about themselves.
It can be googling for healthy recipes to increase the energy or following favorite celebrities on social media, perhaps with the help of all those apps on your phone to remind you of keeping moving, relaxing, sleeping.
As a woman, I ask myself: what are we missing that we don't see the signs to help one another? Why are we still so surprised when we find out that our cousin, our neighbor, our hairdresser, our teacher, our mum, our daughter is at the hospital recovering from injuries?
How did she get hurt? Was it an accident? Always an accident. And usually, always her fault.
But how can we help? Should I bring all the women in danger to my house and let the dogs guarding the gate? If only there was a simple answer for such delicate and dangerous subject.
Your sister can video-call you to show you her new dress, but probably will not call you to show her face after her partner physically hurt her. She will hide. She will call in sick at work, and miss the family lunch on that Sunday.
She will hide because even if she knows it is not her fault, she is still scared of judgment, more bad reactions, afraid of not find a solution to change the situation. Maybe she still loves him. And how about the kids? How can she just leave her partner and look for a safe life?
So let's tell her how, and your neighbor and your hairdresser, that some people know how to help. And they don't judge or blame anyone.
Here below, some links that may help someone, please share:
If you are in immediate danger, call 111 and ask for the police. If not safe to speak, push 55 on the mobile (any number on a landline) to be put trough to Police.
www.2shine.org.nz - if you are feeling trapped, if you're being controlled, or physically or emotionally abused by a partner, ex-partner, family member, or someone close to you we want you to have access to support, information, and advocacy through our Helpline.
Phone the Shine Helpline for advice: 0508 744 633 — free from any phone, 9am to 11pm every day.
https://www.govt.nz/browse/law-crime-and-justice/abuse-harassment-domestic-violence/domestic-and-family-violence/ - Services and support for anyone experiencing abuse from a partner, ex-partner, family member, flatmate, friend, or carer.
www.areyouok.org.nz - the players and refs are happier, and the sideline abuse has dropped. Ask a question. Relationship Quiz. Take the quiz to see how healthy your relationship is.
